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"You only hear the music when your heart begins to break" My Chemical Romance, "The Kids From Yesterday" "Hoping for the best, just hoping nothing happens A thousand clever lines unread on clever napkins I will never ask if you don't ever tell me I know you well enough to know you'll never love me (Why can't I feel anything from anyone other than you?)" Taking Back Sunday, "Cute Without the 'E' (Cut From the Team)" Ducking inside the Coney Island theater to avoid the unusua

"There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you." - Maya Angelou As I walk up the stairs onto the stage, into the...

When I began to explore masculinity as a young queer, I had one goal: don't be like my dad. My father was an abusive borderline...

This blog is, at its core, a love letter to queer theory through the lens of autobiography. If academia was a more stable and remunerative career path, I absolutely would have gone into gender and sexuality studies. A paper I wrote in college on asexual BDSM practitioners, based on interviews I conducted with self-identified asexual kinksters after hanging around in dungeons and reading blog posts online, is published in a relatively prestigious academic journal. I am more pr

I worry that I'm a closet femme-phobe. As far back as I can remember, I've felt like I've failed at femininity, and as a result felt...

Goth clubs feel like home to me. Excitement builds in my chest as I stand in line outside the club, as I watch club goers emerge out onto...

On the surface, my girlfriend and I couldn't be more different. She is a self-identified clown, an exuberant performer with hair the...

The first time I heard "Good Luck, Babe!" by Chappell Roan, I was sobbing by the first chorus. And every time it plays, a shiver goes...

"I would prefer not to." - Herman Melville, "Bartleby, the Schrivner" I love queer nightlife. I love the eclectic creativity on display. I love the acts of radical love and sexuality. I love the passion and talent of the performers. I love the culture of consent. They are a welcome respite from the oppressive expectations and insidious, compounding violences of the world. It is a thrill to witness the innovative ways that the freaks and outcasts shake off the roles and the sh

It happens every night after a show. My fellow dancers and I at a bar decked out in leather and fishnets, cooling off with drinks as...